Why Mind Change focuses on helping you develop healthy relationship skills rather than coping mechanisms

A common trauma response I see in clients is staying in "bad" situations for much longer than they should have. 

There are a few reasons for this. 

For many trauma survivors, their bodies have been in a state of SURVIVAL for so long that they have essentially disconnected from their gut/intuition/inner wisdom. They become so accustomed to high-intensity relationships or toxic environments that they stay in them for much longer than someone who's in touch with their own worth and value. ⠀

This can be work environments, family relationships, romantic relationships, and even friendships. Sometimes, they are even SUBCONSCIOUSLY helping to create the chaos/drama/trauma by engaging with it frequently. They do this because it is FAMILIAR, and they "know how" to do it...even if they consciously "hate" it. 

Many of these people "put up with" rather terrible childhood experiences or family units, and therefore have created a higher threshold for emotional pain. Having a balanced sensitivity to emotional distress is healthy. It's sort of like our pain tolerance for a hot stove. It doesn't actually serve you to have a very high threshold of pain when putting your hand on a hot stove. Even though you may not initially feel the heat, you WILL get burned. Relationships can be the same. 

When our emotional barometers have been altered by trauma, we can become hyper-sensitive or hyper-tolerant to conflict or drama. Neither is optimal. When we heal the trauma, we can re-set our default to a more regulated, healthy barometer. 

This changes EVERYTHING! 

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