Do you try to avoid conflict at the expense of your own happiness?

Where are my CONFLICT AVOIDERS at?!?

I hear it all the time, “I just hate conflict.”

And while very few people LOVE conflict, it can be a great way to grow our communication skills and to deal with what conflict TRIGGERS in us.

For many people, how they represent CONFLICT comes from negative references or experiences in their past. So anything that resembles those negative feelings will cause us to react or avoid. What we are REALLY trying to avoid, is the negative feelings and emotions that WE associate to the conflict. But this can come at a cost.

We don’t always agree with others. Even if we really love them. Healthy relationships will see conflict as a tool to help respect one another and yourself while expressing differing opinions. That way, we stay true to ourselves and our voice, while also staying open to the position of another person.

People who avoid conflict at all costs, tend to be people who end up feeling unseen, used, invisible, or rejected. Or, eventually they BLOW UP out of “nowhere” because they haven’t been honest about what they feel and think.

Conflict avoidance can be a trauma response and coping mechanism. What if you could be set free from this?

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